June 29th, 2017
Recently, I found out that one of the vendors I’d met with while shopping a service a few months ago, and ultimately didn’t choose, unfollowed me and my business on all social media.
I was taken aback.
After all, this same person was someone I’d met with over a year ago and I gave her over 3 hours total of consulting, business advice and content marketing ideas only to notice she went with another company for logo design a few months later after detailing her lack of budget for package I’d presented to her (next year, she’d said).
I thought about how I felt when I saw that, her logo – not created by us – and tried to remember if I was hurt or pissed or whatever.
And I couldn’t – because it didn’t matter.
In the end, we weren’t right for her and I’d noticed the logo, but I didn’t care. I continued to follow her, like her photos, comment, engage and when the opportunity arose that I needed her service – I connected with no hard feelings.
But they were my feelings that were hurt when I noticed the unfollowing. It’s so juvenile and ridiculous that it even bothered me at all but I couldn’t help it. I chat with so many people who I don’t do work with after meeting with them for quotes or consultations and it’s just business. We move on, move forward and keep connections.
As with this entire process, I tried to see how I could learn from the experience in my business.
- Never worry about the people who say no to you, because it’s not personal, it’s business.
- Don’t act out about in any way, because it’s the internet – people will find out.
- Don’t underestimate the power of networking, because even though this person didn’t work out – they may know someone who will.
- Trust your gut (this applies to everything).
- Do what YOU need to do (this applies to everything).
I am so happy with the vendor I ended up choosing and this whole situation just made that realization even more apparent, and that’s ultimately what matters. It feels exactly the same when a client goes another way – it can bring up feelings of rejection, hurt or sadness but more often than not – a more appropriate client comes knocking right around the corner that I wouldn’t have had time for if the client who rejected me, didn’t.
That’s life. That’s business.
Don’t sweat the small stuff, yo.